Comments on: Book Bonanza Wednesday! Chapter 8: Feeling considered http://connection-revolution.com/book-bonanza-wednesday-chapter-8-feeling-considered/ connect with spirit. connect with others. connect with yourself. change the world. Sat, 11 Feb 2012 21:51:28 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Tanya http://connection-revolution.com/book-bonanza-wednesday-chapter-8-feeling-considered/comment-page-1/#comment-1217 Tanya Wed, 04 Mar 2009 17:18:46 +0000 http://freakrevolution.com/?p=1296#comment-1217 One of the ways I consider my partner is by saying "I plan to [foo]" rather than "I would like to [foo]". That phrasing helps him know which things I already feel *committed* to doing as opposed to things that I would kind of sort of maybe one day perhaps like to do. Also, sounding wishy-washy gets people confused into thinking I'm a doormat. Sadly, this is one miscommunication in which hilarity does not ensue. Another way to make it clear that you aren't asking permission (giving up too much responsibility/having poor boundaries) is to say "[foo] is my plan for today. I'd like to know how that's going to work with your plans." The suggestions in this comment are not guaranteed by any institution and should not be used as a substitute as advice from your attorney, doctor, or mother-in-law. Void where prohibited. For external use only. ; ) One of the ways I consider my partner is by saying “I plan to [foo]” rather than “I would like to [foo]“. That phrasing helps him know which things I already feel *committed* to doing as opposed to things that I would kind of sort of maybe one day perhaps like to do.

Also, sounding wishy-washy gets people confused into thinking I’m a doormat. Sadly, this is one miscommunication in which hilarity does not ensue.

Another way to make it clear that you aren’t asking permission (giving up too much responsibility/having poor boundaries) is to say “[foo] is my plan for today. I’d like to know how that’s going to work with your plans.”

The suggestions in this comment are not guaranteed by any institution and should not be used as a substitute as advice from your attorney, doctor, or mother-in-law. Void where prohibited. For external use only. ; )

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