Announcing: The Connection Revolution

by Kyeli on October 7, 2010


(Click here if you don’t see the video.)

Remember our faery tale from yesterday? Did you figure out who is who? Could you guess at where our heroesses might be heading?

We won’t make you wait any longer.

Pace (the princess) and I (the faery) have been on pins and needles for weeks now, and we’re finally able to tell you the big news: The Freak Revolution is no more.

In its place, the Connection Revolution is born.

But the really big news? The Freak Revolution was the Connection Revolution all along.

We weren’t ready. We were too small, too afraid, too timid to step into the big shoes demanded by the Connection Revolution. Who are we to start a revolution of connection? Who are we to call ourselves leaders of such a big, powerful movement?

Who are we not to?

We have lots of friends who are members of the Connection Revolution already. Lots of people in our circle are doing this work, bringing connection to the world in many ways. The Connection Revolution is our particular flavor of the big shift from the control paradigm to the connection paradigm – and who are we not to do that work, if that is what our hearts are called to do?

And I will tell you this – this is absolutely what our hearts are called to do.

There were three catalysts, three main things that pushed us over the edge into making this shift.

1) Our own internal shifts away from “freak”. Pace and I both have been feeling the shift, this pushing inside away from freak and toward spiritual idealist. We’re still freaky, it’s just not as urgent anymore.

When I first stepped out of Christianity and into my place as a Witch, I wore a pentacle for months. I wore it – not because it was the symbol of my faith – but because I didn’t want anyone to assume I was anything but Pagan. It meant the world to me for everyone to know that I wasn’t Christian anymore. But now that I’ve been a Witch for nigh on 20 years (oh, goodness), I don’t care to flaunt it anymore. It’s still part of me, it’s still Who I Am. Being a Witch is still very intrinsic and very important to me. But I no longer have to tell everyone I meet that I’m a Witch. I just am.

Freak is like that. I’m still a freak. I’m still proud to be freaky. I’m still non-mainstream. We still love freaky people and we still spend lots of time with freaky people. But it’s no longer something I have to announce when I walk in the room (although, my tattoos might do that for me, ha!). It’s just something I am.

2) Our survey. When we tallied the results, an astoundingly small percentage of our people self-identified as freak. Wait, what revolution are we leading?

By and large, the people we’re drawing to us are spiritual world-changer writers. That’s not by any means all of you, but it makes up a startlingly large percentage of you. You’re our people – we asked, you responded, and we heeded the call.

3) Our logo. The Freak Revolution logo caused a huge amount of dissonance in me. It’s gorgeous. It’s wonderful. It used to fill me with pride and motivation and oomph. But lately, week after week it’s filled me with angst and frustration and a sense of not rightness.

I’m such a visual person; when something I see sparks these feelings in me, I know something’s going on. And the more I thought about it, the more I realized the dissonance was caused because I don’t match the logo anymore – I’m not so hardcore now. I’m softer. Less us vs. the world, less exclusive. More spiritual.

More connection.

And the biggest signpost to mark us being on the right path? When we re-wrote the manifesto, we barely made any changes. When we read it aloud and replaced “freak” with “connection”, it made even more sense and was even more beautiful. Pace and I wept over it, our hearts filling to the brim with goodness and on-the-right-pathness.

This is a big change. It’s a huge change for us and a huge change for you. I want to reassure you, this change is for the good – for all of us! And, practically speaking, very little will actually be different. Most things will stay the same.

We’ll still post on the blog Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays.

We’ll still make awesome things to help you and your life be more awesome. In fact, we’ve got some incredibly exciting stuff in the works for the next couple of years! And not a single thing that we’ve done in the past year has been freak-specific (which was another of the signs that we’re on the Right Path).

We’ll still be on Facebook (Pace and Kyeli), we’ll still be on Twitter (@PaceSmith and @Kyeli). We’ll still be ourselves, sweet and friendly and easily accessible.

In fact, with the new blog layout, we’ll have threaded comments – which will prompt me to respond to you more often, so I’ll be even easier to talk to than before! (I’m also far more responsive on Twitter these days.)

So, what will change?

I won’t be coaching anymore. Pace says I’m like a sensitive painter, and I need to be sequestered away in a chilly zen garden with a brook and stones and birdsong, and she’ll answer the door and help the UPS guy while I paint and paint and paint. I say, yeah, I’m extremely sensitive and rather fragile, and I’m sorry if that means I’m not as good at most things as everyone else, but there you have it. What it boils down to is, coaching is very stressful for me, and it’s super fun for Pace, so I’m going to stop doing it.

The price of coaching increased to $500 per hour-long session; we want to spend more of our time on things that will help many people instead of one at a time, but Pace doesn’t want to stop coaching entirely because she loves it and it does help people – so we compromised and raised the price.

The Coffee House is closing. We’ve already closed applications, and the forum will be completely shut down on November 1st. I’ve written an entire post solely on this decision; I go into more detail on Monday.

A few of our policies will change: we won’t be doing much affiliate stuff anymore. We’ve noticed that we sometimes spend a lot of time telling you about stuff other people are selling, and you aren’t particularly interested, so we won’t waste any of our time anymore! We want to tell you about things you love, and avoid things you don’t. We won’t be randomly reviewing things unless we’ve tried them and love them and are sure you’ll love them, too. Also, Pace will probably still randomly review books that she’s read and loves. It’s so cute, I won’t stop her.

We will still tell you about our awesome friends from time to time, but we leave it entirely to you as to what you do with that information.

We will be more openly spiritual. Pace and I are both very spiritual creatures, me by nature and her by lots of lovingly effortful practice. I have, in fact, long heard the call to open up and be more publicly spiritual – it scares me stupid and I’ve been avoiding it for years. But now is the time. I’ve had sign after sign after sign that now is the time, and with the birth of the Connection Revolution, Pace and I both are taking a deep breath (several, in fact) and opening our hearts and our spirits again to let you ever further in.

So, with that, I’ll leave you with my final thought: The word revolution includes the word evolution. Without change, without movement, without growth and room to evolve, a revolution will stagnate and die and be forgotten.

And we won’t be having with that.

Welcome to the Connection Revolution.


Have you read the Connection Manifesto? It tells the story of why there is so much hurt and sadness in the world, and how we can heal through connection.

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Leah Shapiro October 7, 2010 at 8:41 am

Woo-Hoo!
Congratulations on taking this big step forward and expanding into your truth and awesomeness.
What you are doing is such a wonderful example of allowing yourself to grow and change and expand and not clinging to the old-ways that seemed to be working on one level but not truly serving your souls.
You both Rock!
Many Blessings on this new manifestation of your awesomeness!
.-= Leah Shapiro´s last blog ..What’s YOUR Game What do YOU Do =-.

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Ellie Di October 7, 2010 at 8:48 am

Seriously, guys, this gave me chills. It feels SO right! The idea of forging and nurturing connections between people in order to change the world has always seemed like your real message (and one that I’ve been operating under for years). I’m also sososo happy for you both that you found the courage and love to take this step and grow with your dreams.

I’m super excited to see you both talk more about your spirituality, too. I’ve also been wanting to open up more about my beliefs and connect (!) with more people to talk about it. This is gong to be incredibly sweet.

PS – The video may have made me diabetic. Every time you looked at each other, I got all squee-y from the super love there. <3!
.-= Ellie Di´s last blog ..Saturday Morning Intentions =-.

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Michael October 7, 2010 at 8:55 am

[*hugs*] to you both. I’m looking forward to reading more, and seeing what I can do to help.

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Bailey October 7, 2010 at 8:58 am

Congratulations! I’m excited to see what shape this takes.

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Kylie October 7, 2010 at 9:01 am

The way you wrote this, it makes so much sense. I just get it. Sometimes once you declare your freakiness, you become so comfortable that it’s no longer about being a freak anymore. It’s about being you. I see that here, and I’m so excited for you both.
.-= Kylie´s last blog ..things i’m good at =-.

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Heather Freeman October 7, 2010 at 9:02 am

I like it. I know some people who were put off by the name “Freak Revolution” because they didn’t ID as freaks – but connection? It’s hard to object to that, and it really does get to the core of what you folks are trying to do.
.-= Heather Freeman´s last blog ..RJAE wrap-up =-.

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Pace October 7, 2010 at 9:27 am

Yeah, we knew some people like that too. We used to think they just weren’t our Right People, but we were wrong.

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Elizabeth Potts WEinstein October 7, 2010 at 9:04 am

Yes. Congratulations! :)
.-= Elizabeth Potts WEinstein´s last blog ..A Story of an MRI- Part 1 =-.

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Becky Blanton October 7, 2010 at 9:06 am

Nice! You’re moving more toward your core and I’m glad to see it! When we no longer identify with a thing, a belief or a movement, but with love, I think we really reach our center and perfect balance. I predict this will be another layer of the onion as you move toward contentment in just “being.”
.-= Becky Blanton´s last blog ..What Are You Famous For What Are You Passionate About =-.

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Connie October 7, 2010 at 9:07 am

I get it.
I love it.
And I admire deeply how you both listened to your hearts and made a change.

BIG Hugs!
.-= Connie´s last blog ..And Again I Begin =-.

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Karl Staib - Work Happy Now
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October 7, 2010 at 9:11 am

I think it’s a great fit. I see more “connection” oozing our of the both of you anyway. It seems like it’s putting on an old shoe. You slip it on and it feels comfortable. That’s what I get from hanging out with the both of you.

I know this was a huge step. There must of been a lot of fear wrapped up within this decision. I’m proud of you. You went for it and I’m here if you need any support.
.-= Karl Staib – Work Happy Now´s last blog ..How to Overcome a Lack of Confidence =-.

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Jess October 7, 2010 at 9:11 am

Ahhhh! I love this! Feels so totally natural, like the most expected next step in the evolution of the Revolution. I’ve been crying tears of joy since watching the video. Loving this!!!! (:

Can’t wait to be riding along to see what’s next! You girls ROCK!!!!!!!!!

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Sheila the Wonderbink October 7, 2010 at 9:13 am

I believe that the world will know peace when a critical mass of people can grasp this fundamental truth:

There is no Them. There is only Us.

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Scraps October 7, 2010 at 9:16 am

So grokking this and loving the focus on connection and spirit over asserting differences.
.-= Scraps´s last blog ..A Stitch in Time… =-.

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kate October 7, 2010 at 9:49 am

so so so excited to hear this! Like it or not, we all CONNECT at one point or another, sometimes it’s just a matter of reminding people and showing them the impact they can have on others. this new shift is HUGE and I am very excited to see the movement continue to grow!

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Aude October 7, 2010 at 10:32 am

Well… this is a big surprise :P
“Connection Revolution” is quite a long name IMO, but I understand why the change was needed.
As for me… well, while I’m certainly a freak, somehow I still think that changing the world is too big a task for me… I might lose interest. I’ll try not to.
Good luck =)

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Moon'slark/Pam October 7, 2010 at 10:38 am

When you announced that there were big changes coming I was SO worried… I was worried that yet another group would grow in a way that I didn’t fit anymore. So many of the blogs I follow and groups I have been part of have recently moved in a direction I wasn’t terribly comfortable with — from being connection oriented to being entrepreur only or sales oriented, from friendship to networking, from supportive to competitive.
All I have ever wanted was to connect to other people. I am not really the type to be good at creating things and selling things and pushing product. I am not a sales person, and so trying to fit into the world of the entrepreners has been consistently stressful.
Connecting… that is what I want!!
.-= Moon’slark/Pam´s last blog ..Wishcasting Wednesday- Where do you wish to Grow your Confidence =-.

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Danielle October 7, 2010 at 10:46 am

Oh, wow! This is so exciting. I LOVE the new name, the new logo … everything. It’s simply divine. It’s all so filled with light and love. What a perfect way to evolve Freak Revolution into something so all encompassing. I just love all of this.

Congratulations to you both!
.-= Danielle´s last blog ..We’ve got new digs! =-.

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Jennifer Hofmann October 7, 2010 at 10:54 am

I honestly woke up thinking, “I wonder when I get to find out what Pace and Kyeli are up to. I’m so excited for them!” And I got a delicious email that warmed my heart first thing, but to see it here with the new branding, photos, colors — (GORgeous site, btw) I’m really moved.

I confess, the issue of connection has been on my heart for a good while now. I see evidence all around me that our social fabric is wearing thin — bullying, getting ever faster, each person for himself, run-the-red-light attitude — and it pains me. That you two are taking a stand before those of us who seek deeper connection — it’s powerful. The Spirit in me deeply honors the Spirit in you that is committed to sharing these truths with humanity. We need you.

Lots of love,
Jen
.-= Jennifer Hofmann´s last blog ..Wise words from my own teachers =-.

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caffeinatedelf October 7, 2010 at 11:22 am

I have to leave my own CONGRATULATIONS and YAY and OMG AWESOME comment here too! So much love! :) :)
.-= caffeinatedelf´s last blog ..A Thesis Treat For You =-.

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Nathalie Lussier October 7, 2010 at 11:27 am

*clinks of champagne* Congratulations you two!! This is so YOU! I really feel like this new incarnation radiates with your real energy, and is more energetically aligned with your mission. I looove it and I am SO happy for you!

Oh, and the best part of this post? The word evolution is part of the word revolution. YES! :D

Doing a happy dance right now. And loving the colors :)
.-= Nathalie Lussier´s last blog ..The 3 Day Raw Food Starter Kit =-.

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Jennifer Louden October 7, 2010 at 11:40 am

beautiful and well modeled for us all so we have permission to change and grow!
.-= Jennifer Louden´s last blog ..You Say You Want a Revolution =-.

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Naomi Niles October 7, 2010 at 11:57 am

Congratulations!! It’s brave to totally change gears like that. So happy for you!

And, oh. You two make me smile. :)
.-= Naomi Niles´s last blog ..Just how fast do blog readers really scan =-.

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Naomi Niles October 7, 2010 at 12:04 pm

And Happy Birthday, Pace!! (just saw that on the Twitters. ;-) )
.-= Naomi Niles´s last blog ..Just how fast do blog readers really scan =-.

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Yvonne Bynoe October 7, 2010 at 12:12 pm

Hi:

I’ve been more of a lurker than a participant….but I’ve liked what I’ve seen. I realize from my own journey that we evolve in seen and unseen ways. Very often the next step in our growth is simply to change our label…how we self-identify. It’s less about substantive change and more about our willingness to see ourselves in our truest sense.

I’m so happy for you both.
.-= Yvonne Bynoe´s last blog ..The 3 Biggest Mistakes Entrepreneurs Make When Answering- “What Do You Do” =-.

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Claire October 7, 2010 at 1:35 pm

I’m alternating between Whoo-Hoo!! and luxurious sighing – aaaahhhhh. It’s a nice combo feeling, I must say.

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Mahala October 7, 2010 at 1:49 pm

This gave me chills. All of the dissonance you mentioned was stuff I experienced, but I kept coming back because the root of who you are and what you were saying *connected*
Applauding your courage to say Freak Revolution is no more and really excited for you new / continuing revolution.
.-= Mahala´s last blog ..Taking My Own Medicine =-.

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Charon October 7, 2010 at 1:58 pm

Awesome and win that you are doing what is right for you!

Totally related to the pentacle story. I own a gorgeous one that I barely wear now. Same reasoning.

I was unable to frequent the Coffeehouse as much as I would have liked and I’m WAY behind on my 52Weeks coursework, but it’s actually because of the Connection Revolution working merrily away in my own life. I have such a delicious and wonderful plate of Connection Goodness in front of me these days and I have the both of you to thank for helping get me there.

I’ll be reposting this entry on my own site.

Thanks you, lovelies!
.-= Charon´s last blog ..Audio Blog for October 2010 =-.

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Kelly October 7, 2010 at 2:02 pm

Yes yes yes!!! Yay! I’m so thrilled to see the chick hatch, the flower blossom, the brand re-ingnite! Love you both, and you make connection an art form. It’s beautiful.
.-= Kelly´s last blog ..Quit Everything Month =-.

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Chris O'Byrne October 7, 2010 at 2:13 pm

Holy crap, this is beautiful! And not just the design, but the message, the honesty, and especially, the spirituality. I’ve learned to embrace uncertainty and fluidity and this new direction is inspirational.
.-= Chris O’Byrne´s last blog ..The 3 Pillars of Writing Highly Effective E-books =-.

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Kate October 7, 2010 at 3:09 pm

Awesomesauce.

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Victoria Brouhard October 7, 2010 at 3:41 pm

My whole body said, “YES!” when I read this. Such a beautiful evolution.

Congratulations, you two.

xo victoria
.-= Victoria Brouhard´s last blog ..Puzzle Pieces =-.

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Catherine Caine October 7, 2010 at 3:47 pm

Hooray for you both! It’s BEAUTIFUL.

P.S. My book arrived yesterday. Thankee!

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Patty K October 7, 2010 at 3:56 pm

Congratulations!! I love the new look and the new focus.
.-= Patty K´s last blog ..Let’s get something done =-.

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Tanya October 7, 2010 at 3:57 pm

That’s awesome!

I wish I’d spoken up way back when… I felt some of that dissonance (the chip on the shoulder stuff you guys pointed out) when the Freak Revolution rolled out, but I thought “what the heck do I know? That’s just a sign they’re more fired up than I am, and maybe I should be more like that.”

I still say I admire your amazing drive and commitment, but now the dissonance is just gone.

(*BIG HUGS*) you guys rock.

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Pace October 7, 2010 at 4:02 pm

You know, Tanya, we probably wouldn’t have been ready to hear it back then. We were too afraid of stepping into these bigger shoes.

*big hugs back* (:

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Tori Deaux October 7, 2010 at 4:45 pm

Oh, I love the change! I get it, and … well… I admired the Freak Revolution and what you were doing, but didn’t think I’d fit with the exact freakness of it. I didn’t think I was one of your people, that I’d fit with your agenda (Even though I never really looked at your agenda deeply, I just didn’t quite resonate. Now? Yeah. I’m going to look deeper, because this shift? Resonance. Definite resonance.

And congrats on the bigger shoes. They look awesome.
.-= Tori Deaux´s last blog ..Planning The Plan- NaNoWriMo As A Case Study =-.

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Goddess Leonie October 7, 2010 at 4:45 pm

oh darlings.

i am so happy in my heart to read this.
.-= Goddess Leonie´s last blog ..Energy Updates with Akiah! =-.

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Marianne October 7, 2010 at 6:42 pm

Thank you for your clarity and most of all for your inclusiveness. I’ve always LOVED what you guys were doing here but never quite felt comfortable with the “normal people won’t change the world, we will” tag – for this exact reason. We are normal people, normal people are us. There is no them, there is only us. And we will change the world, together – if we are connected.

Thank you, for making space for me in your revolution!
.-= Marianne´s last blog ..Why HIV-AIDs Why South Africa =-.

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Julia October 7, 2010 at 8:59 pm

I like connecting. I like connections. I’m looking forward to seeing this unfold!

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Cha October 7, 2010 at 9:38 pm

I’m one of the self-identified freaks, but it doesn’t make me understand this any less. Growth and connection… it’s hard to imagine a more satisfying and useful idea than that.
.-= Cha´s last blog ..Little Big Your Turn =-.

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Birdy Diamond October 7, 2010 at 9:47 pm

Yay! I can breathe more easily here now – I was one of those people that love, love, LOVE the idea of what you are doing, but had real problems with the ‘freak’ label. I like the way you put it – it’s not that I’m any more mainstream, I just am what I am.

Will miss the Coffeehouse tho’ – I know I hadn’t yet really gotten as deeply into it as I would have liked, and it is a bit of a shame that I won’t have the opportunity now that the focus of the site is changing.

Any chances of moving it to a forum on the site and away from Ning?

Brightest Blessings & Congrats on the epiphanies & the bravely stepping forward on your Path! :-)
.-= Birdy Diamond´s last blog ..Thoughtful Thursday – Let’s Be Realistic… =-.

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Natalia October 8, 2010 at 1:20 am

I love, love, love what you’re doing. I joined the Freak Revolution because I liked your message. But I am one of those who did not relate to the freak label. This. This is magnificent. I love the evolution. I’ve been blogging a bit about evolution too, inspired by Bruce Lipton’s work. The time is here!
.-= Natalia´s last blog ..Magic for Muggles- Change the Way You See and Experience EVERYTHING =-.

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Lana Phillips October 8, 2010 at 3:13 am

I’m so glad to see this. I was okay with calling myself a freak, but it did feel sort of off even though I know I’m not much like other people. But I’ve been identifying myself inside myself as someone who values connections between people and ideas. You two have given me the courage to do that to the world, and that’s definitely a good thing.

I’m proud to walk with you both through whatever comes next.

Blessings and love!!
Lana
.-= Lana Phillips´s last blog ..Spirit Day =-.

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Tangerine Meg October 8, 2010 at 3:48 am

You just totally made my day! :) Happy hugs, love, congratulations x o
.-= Tangerine Meg´s last blog ..Live Bold List 19- Wear red shoes and other ways to be a grown up girl =-.

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Cazza October 8, 2010 at 6:11 am

This is wonderful! Connection is so what it is all about. I loved the freak revolution for the way it brought folks of very varied and freaky interests together, but in the long term we cant do much good keeping ourselves ‘othered’ from so called normal society.

Ive struggled with my own ‘alternative’ identity over the years, sometimes wanting to embrace it and sometimes just wanting to be seen as a person. A person who happens to have a few ‘specialist’ interests lol!

I joke with my freaky flavoured friends that I have been disguising myself as normal, but really this has been conscious on my part as a. I cant be arsed dressing up everyday and am happy to save that for the weekend/going out/staying in;)
b. In my line of work (work being what I do, not just 9-5) Its more important for me to be approachable and to be able to make connections with folks without them being put of by my appearance. So most folk can handle a very pale face, alot of purple clothes and a few tattoos, but the shaved head and PVC, nah I can live without it!
c. Being a witch, well its personal, like I personal believe most religion/spirituality should be.

Yay yay yay for the connections r/evolution!!

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Melissa Dinwiddie October 20, 2010 at 10:39 pm

Just saw this (my self-imposed moratorium on newsletters has dramatically helped my productivity, but it does have the drawback that I miss stuff… :-})

Wow – I love the evolution, how beautifully you processed and shared it all here. Kudos and congratulations. The Connection Revolution fits you so beautifully.

I look forward to seeing how things evolve from here!
.-= Melissa Dinwiddie´s last blog ..Weekly Review 29- In which the Universe apparently decided I needed a break =-.

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Pace October 20, 2010 at 11:03 pm

Thank you, Melissa! (:

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Tracy October 22, 2010 at 9:41 am

As someone who isn’t a regular reader of your blog but wanders in occasionally to see what’s new, I’m fascinated by the shift that’s happened here. This kind of change can be difficult to experience and acknowledge, and (sometimes) even harder to explain, and I think you’ve done a brilliant job of describing that process. Congratulations on being fully reborn into your new identity! Can’t wait to see how it evolves.
.-= Tracy´s last blog ..Small and simple- ATCs on a theme =-.

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Julie Tennis October 22, 2010 at 7:55 pm

Oh, I’m sad to see “Freak Revolution” go, but I understand and honor your decision. :) YAY!

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Farnoosh January 19, 2011 at 9:20 pm

Ok I am seriously late to this party but I did watch this video – I came over here from White Hot Truth, no less….! You guys, this was a pretty awesome video and I love Connection Revolution….!
.-= Farnoosh´s last blog ..Yoga Flow Series 7- Finding Strength in Arm Balances =-.

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Lisbeth Grosch March 1, 2011 at 9:17 am

With all the doggone snow we have gotten recently I am stuck indoors, fortunately there is the internet, thanks for giving me something to do. :)

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Tori Caspari March 6, 2011 at 4:53 pm

great site… I learned huge from it. thanks admin.

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