Comments on: Get in my monkeysphere! http://connection-revolution.com/get-in-my-monkeysphere/ connect with spirit. connect with others. connect with yourself. change the world. Sat, 11 Feb 2012 21:51:28 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Tanya http://connection-revolution.com/get-in-my-monkeysphere/comment-page-1/#comment-916 Tanya Wed, 31 Dec 2008 19:07:26 +0000 http://freakrevolution.com/?p=1038#comment-916 Oliver, I also enjoy that surge of excitement as you dive into the thrilling unknown of getting to know someone utterly unlike yourself... there's really nothing like it at all. I have to agree; knowing in advance that you'll have a lot in common diminishes the anticipation quite a bit. Oliver, I also enjoy that surge of excitement as you dive into the thrilling unknown of getting to know someone utterly unlike yourself… there’s really nothing like it at all.

I have to agree; knowing in advance that you’ll have a lot in common diminishes the anticipation quite a bit.

]]> By: Oliver Danni http://connection-revolution.com/get-in-my-monkeysphere/comment-page-1/#comment-829 Oliver Danni Fri, 12 Dec 2008 21:54:02 +0000 http://freakrevolution.com/?p=1038#comment-829 One quirk I've noticed for myself that I don't think I know of anyone else for whom this is true, is that I often do better socially in groups of people where I'm obviously different from them. The more "like me" the people I'm hanging out with are, the less likely it is I'm going to be able to relate to them well, which I suspect is because they've already made assumptions about what we have in common and what those things mean in terms of how we will relate to each other (and so have I). Whereas, when I hang out with people who aren't like me in some "fundamental" way, we already got past that hurdle because we aren't assuming that something we think we have in common means something that it doesn't. One quirk I’ve noticed for myself that I don’t think I know of anyone else for whom this is true, is that I often do better socially in groups of people where I’m obviously different from them. The more “like me” the people I’m hanging out with are, the less likely it is I’m going to be able to relate to them well, which I suspect is because they’ve already made assumptions about what we have in common and what those things mean in terms of how we will relate to each other (and so have I). Whereas, when I hang out with people who aren’t like me in some “fundamental” way, we already got past that hurdle because we aren’t assuming that something we think we have in common means something that it doesn’t.

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