Comments on: I didn’t use to have body issues.

By: Paul

Paul — Sat, 24 Apr 2010 22:40:19 +0000

I can just barely remember not being made fun of for my weight. Then we moved, just before my sixth birthday, and I was the New Kid, and Young For My Grade, and A Little Pudgy... yeah. <3 .-= Chris Anthony´s last blog ..On horses =-.

By: Julia

Julia — Wed, 14 Apr 2010 02:23:40 +0000

This is where I wonder if I should be defending the tummy tuck, or just showing the end-of-pregnancy picture, describing what happened to my body, and what my biggest problems with it were (which the surgery fixed, I’ll give it that).

What I learned from the tummy tuck is, liposuction sucks. What’s left behind is bruised and it doesn’t look like anything was lost there for awhile, because of swelling (or maybe it would look like something was lost if a lot more were removed, but it still wouldn’t look accurate for awhile because of swelling). And as things were healing up right under the skin, there was itching. Sensations that feel like skin itching on the inside are not my idea of fun.

Fixing what the pregnancy messed up was a good thing. Molding the rest to some “ideal” was less than fun.

(My biggest body issues now have to do with balance, metaphorically speaking, rather than anyone telling me from the outside that my body sucks for whatever reason. I’ve internalized a bit of the prevailing culture, and a bit of the reactive culture, and each has something negative to say about my body the way it is now, at least in my head. At the rate things are going, I’ll probably be OK with it in another 7 or 8 years. Hey, something to look forward to!)

By: Dunstan

Dunstan — Tue, 13 Apr 2010 07:14:58 +0000

Dear Friends,

I grew up as an athlete and for me my esteem was linked to being able to run or ride my bike faster than the next person. I usually could and that fed an egoic sense of superiority.
I guess we all have our issues in one form or another…

The Work of Byron Katie has been a brilliant tool for me to work on some of my adopted belief systems. She has a book called ‘Loving What Is’ and has said:

“No one can be too fat or too thin. That’s not possible. It’s a myth. It keeps you from the awareness of what is.”

There are also some gorgeous videos of a lady working on this issue:

Part 1: http://www.thework.com/video_fat.asp
Part 2: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CZAPVfj32Oc

I’d love to hear how you all find it.

You can find out more about The Work at http://www.thework.com – I find it to be simple and effectve. It hinges around getting an awareness of our beliefs and how they serve (or don’t serve) us. It is pretty much what Kyeli is hinting at ie there is no problem until we adopt a belief that isn’t true eg ‘I should be thinner.’

Love and Truth to y’all,

Dunstan
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By: Annie Stith (Gr8fulAS)

Annie Stith (Gr8fulAS) — Tue, 13 Apr 2010 01:42:54 +0000

Hey, Kyeli. You, too, eh? I have plenty of body issues, all from different angles. First were the messages beaten into me by my father about how ugly and fat I was. Those are the easy ones to deal with because they’re direct. It has been much harder to deal with, say, the messages from Mom, shaped jut like me, always on a diet and always bingeing when her cravings got strong. Hot fudge sundaes and triple cheeseburgers. Then there was that I was an ardent swimmer. Lived in water all summer. Joined swim teams. Well, because I worked out, I’d lose weight. Then when the season stopped, I’d gain it all back. The guys in HS used to wonder (loudly) if I stuffed my bra because I had two different bra sizes.

Now, tho, I’m OK with my weight and my shape. My last ex made a comment about the flaps of skin on my belly, and I did my own version of a belly dance. And then there was a serious conversation about respecting how all bodies are different. :)

Now, if I could just get my body to spontaneously heal…

By: Nathalie Lussier

Nathalie Lussier — Mon, 12 Apr 2010 22:11:22 +0000

Oy body issues. I hear you, and I feel you. I know it might seem silly, but I actually had issues with being too skinny growing up. I didn’t have hips, or breasts, or anything very girly… and maybe that influenced me on more than one level (like going into a male dominated field like programming, for example). We all seem to be a little shaky when it comes to our bodies, no matter what size… maybe it’s a matter of just accepting ourselves, and no taking other people’s body-issues into our psyche. Since a lot of name calling is definitely based on low self-esteem.

Stepping off my soap box now. You’re a smart lady, and you know how to take care of yourself. :) *hugs*
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By: Amy

Amy — Mon, 12 Apr 2010 21:34:36 +0000

God, body issues seriously suck. I am the all time ultimate fighting champion of yo-yo dieting.

Where are you at now? Do you accept it or fight it? What do you do with the “But it’s just not healthy!” comments that fat-shame in a way that is “acceptable” because it’s guised in “concern?”

By: Oliver Danni

Oliver Danni — Mon, 12 Apr 2010 18:26:34 +0000

Wow…that’s intense. I don’t think I’ve EVER not had body issues. I think for me, just the fact that I have a body at all is overwhelming on some level. It’s certainly gotten worse as I’ve gotten older and internalized more messages from the pervasive cultural paradigm of body-hate, but I really can’t remember there ever being a time when it wasn’t there at all, and my memories go back pretty far.
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By: Rachael

Rachael — Mon, 12 Apr 2010 17:12:44 +0000

I remember the first time I started worrying about what I looked like; that was around age thirteen, when I noticed how hard my Mom was working to remain fit and thin. She would go jogging even when she hated it, talk constantly about what size pants she was wearing, and tell me that I had ‘my Grandma’s fat knees’.

Such good food for thought, Kyeli. *hug*
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By: Lost in Translation » Water off a duck’s back

Lost in Translation » Water off a duck’s back — Mon, 12 Apr 2010 17:01:53 +0000

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By: Chris Anthony

Chris Anthony — Mon, 12 Apr 2010 16:57:22 +0000