Here’s the story of what I (Kyeli) went through when I came out as a lesbian. It’s sweet, it’s touching, I laugh, I cry, it’s better than Cats. (:
Have you read the Connection Manifesto? It tells the story of why there is so much hurt and sadness in the world, and how we can heal through connection.
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wow. that was very powerful and you are a very brave woman. I’m so glad you shared it.
-Tanya, blown away
That was beautiful! You are beautiful! And I love you!
*stands and applauds*
I have a similar story around funerals, only I was the one not to go. And yeah, that sucks on both sides.
I’m always impressed with the courage you and Pace have, not just to put deep truths out here on your blog, but the courage it has taken for you to get here. Walking with who you really are. Risking everything to be true to self. Quite the impressive was to become excellent communicators :)
1) Major hurrah for your courage in sharing your experience.
2) Toward the end of your sharing (you’re right, there is some AA action going on there, eh? tee hee), you mentioned how hard it is to tell people who think you’re one thing that you’re actually someone else. And it struck me as so interesting to ponder the fact that people see people the way want to see them. And, as people, we work so hard to create a particular image that we want other people to “get”.
3) Thank you and peace to you.
You are so brave. And fantastically wonderful. I have tears running down my face. . . .
The bravest thing, in my opinion is what you said “if you are going to love me, you have to love the real me” (I might not have gotten the words exactly right – don’t want to misquote you). I think that is the bravest thing imaginable. Its not hard to stand up or out to people we don’t know, the hard thing is facing our families. Seems a little backwards – but they are the ones that have the most vested interest in our “images”, and in my case the reason I started portraying an “image” in the first place.
:)