One of the greatest epiphanies of my life is when my beloved Ambar forwarded me “Caring for your Introvert” — http://www.theatlantic.com/doc/200303/rauch. What a revelation! I’m not socially inept, and/or a wallflower — I’m an introvert. :) A quiet time with a few friends is awesome. A noisy time with a whole lot of people can be fun but expect me to crawl under a rock later.

OTOH, in the right context, I’m a rock star — I speak at conferences, wrangle cranky pagans on big mailing lists, my company’s clients ask for me by name, etc. etc. etc. Turns out “rock star with an intensely private side” is another introvert tendency.

Great love,

- elfin

P.S. In the department of awsome, I found you via a professional blog (http://www.brandon-hall.com/workplacelearningtoday/?p=3959), and was hooked on the first page. Then I got to your blog and squealed in delight! I’m one of Thorn’s third-year students and I run Iron as a daily practice…

I’m in a situation where I’m the Wallflower (perpetual college undergrad, haven’t found my niche) in a serious commitment with a legit Rock Star (bassist of a Columbia signed successful buzz band). It’s a different scenario than yours, but to be the Wallflower, for me, is far from fun. Maybe I’ll create a list, but at the current state I’m in, it’s a little on the pessimistic side. This was great to read though! Thanks!

We are not in business together but he supports me and my business unconditionally. And I COULD NOT BE WHERE I AM without him. Hands down. No contest. His support and love and fabulous sensitivity feeds me in a way that allows me to be so much more of who I am. I really need him.

And I suspect that the same is true for you and Pace. I’m glad that you were able to make your list and see how invaluable you and your contribution are to the relationship and to your business! Congratulations!!

While I don’t consider myself a wallflower, I am extremely uncomfortable with the marketing side of blogging and so I watch people who have had blogs for 3 months (and ‘eh’ content) gain a much wider audience than I have. It doesn’t upset me (I guess I’m a tortoise – keep plugging away) but it does make me wonder where I’d be if I were like that. So far people seem to respond with “suck it up and get over it” but that answer ‘feels’ wrong, if that makes any sense.

Also…the first thing I thought of when I read this was, “You’re both rock stars! The bass guitarist is just as much of a rock star as the lead singer.” And then I remembered that you actually ARE a bass guitarist. ;-)

You (and your Wrinkle in Time reference!) make me happy, thank you. :)